Dear Peanut and Munchkin,
I am very, very thankful that you get to spend so much time with your dad. He takes care of you on Mondays and Fridays while I work, and you get to have a lot of fun together. He gets a little stir-crazy, so he takes you out to play most days, usually in the morning so you can nap in the afternoon. Today it was the kids’ gym; other times it’s been group music classes, the park, the Butterfly House, the Magic House, or even the mall. And that’s just to name a few.
Taking care of two kids all day doesn’t come easily to him, but he does it because he loves you. You are truly blessed to have a dad who is not only physically present but also available to you and involved in your lives. Far too many kids grow up without a dad or other male role model. Other kids’ dads may live at home, but remain aloof from their kids, expecting the mom to take care of all their needs. Some dads may want to be part of their kids’ lives but have to be away a lot for work in order to support the family. That was the case when I was little.
My dad – your granddad – was a truck driver for a wholesale company. Although he was never required to be on the road overnight, he worked very long hours. He was gone before I woke up in the morning, and came home long after I went to bed at night. On weekends, he slept a lot to make up for lost sleep during the week. When he was awake, he usually had to work on fixing stuff around the house. It didn’t leave much time for bonding with me. Fortunately, he transferred to working in the warehouse before I grew up too much, and we were able to develop a relationship. But he missed a lot in those early years, and knowing that heightens my appreciation of your dad’s involvement in your lives from the very beginning. I hope it does the same for you.